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Family Wellness Progress Reports

A portion of my work as a counselor is doing some form of intervention in family systems. The continuum from parents needing just a few strategies to the extreme of working with families to get into therapy makes individualization for each family very important. But there are some givens that parenting experts agree upon that work for all families, whether it be in setting up routines, opening up communication, disengaging from technology, etc.

As a counselor, I know that offering strategies while guiding parents to read parenting books and websites is only the first step in supporting students and their family systems. Following up after parent meetings is essential to check in and continue the dialogue. It is also essential to provide and coach parents in using structures to help improve family dynamics and from a wellness angle to help families thrive.

One of the main structures that I offer families is to have regular family meetings and work together to put plans together. I wrote about this in the spring with the post An Opportunity for Making Plans!. I outlined steps to follow to construct family wellness, tech & media (digital wellness) use, and mission statements. And, of course, individual family members can create their own personal versions of the plans.

I tried to build practical action steps for the plans to make them tangible and a part of family cultures. One additional strategy is to have families design wellness progress reports to support each plan’s implementation and ongoing follow-through. Schools use the term progress report to mean different things. Still, in this instance, I offered it as a formative assessment to support reflection, communication, learning, and other goal-setting while celebrating progress.

When you add the character strength of proactivity by making family meeting appointments in the family calendar, families have a real opportunity to further live their mission, wellness, and digital wellness plans.

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Digital Wellness PERMAH Plan

As an instructional technologist, I always struggled with Responsible Use Policies (RUP). In many cases, they list a lot of behaviors the students should not do. There didn’t seem to be a positive approach around being creative, collaborative, proactive, in control of oneself, etc. And there was not so much buy-in because the students had no say in creating them. So I would give students the official school RUP to sign while making time to have them draw up their own personal responsible use policy, which involved what they could constructively do with technology. 🙂

Now that I am a counselor again and living in the constructive world of Positive Psychology, I think my approach was sound and could be designed using PERMAH and the Character Strengths. Did you notice that I used a few character strengths in the first paragraph? 😉 Yes, they can be applied to how our students and all of us engage in the digital world.

Previously I posted the idea of families designing their own tech and media agreements (Family Digital Wellness Plan) based upon their family values taking shape either as part of the family mission statement or as a separate document. I stand by that approach of having a family media agreement, but it could be enhanced by bringing PERMAH and the Character Strengths into the development process.

It might be too complicated for families to include this wellness approach in their discussions to create a family media/tech digital wellness and/or mission statement, especially with young children. I wonder if children and families might be offered a value-focused or a Positive Psychology approach. I will need to think about this, as both seem very solid.

I definitely see myself at some point working with students to use the PERMAH construct to create their personal digital wellness plan looking at how they will engage with technology and digital information to:

  • enhance their Positive Emotions
  • deepen their Engagement in activities
  • nurture aspects of their Relationships
  • offer them opportunities for Accomplishment
  • and grow their mental and physical Health

The process would also include listing which Character Strengths they will engage with within each PERMAH pillar.

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An Opportunity for Making Plans!

With so many families at home due to the pandemic, many are finding time to work on projects, to-do lists, personal growth opportunities, and all sorts of activities to help them feel more productive and in control of their lives. Here are three possible plans that families might want to review to see if they want to develop one or all three. There is a definite overlap between the three.

Family Mission Statement – This is a workshop topic that I was to have offered this month before the closing of the school. I believe that the process of writing a family mission statement offers many learning and communication opportunities for families. The process of designing and writing the mission statement is just as important as creating the final document. Just as businesses, schools, and governments have missions and value listings to guide their decision-making, families also can benefit as they access their mission statement to make everyday and big decisions. A family mission statement is like a constitution and a compass. 🙂 I put together a step-by-step process for writing a family mission statement.

Family Digital Wellness Plan – This is another topic that I was to offer a workshop on. Students and parents are familiar with the technology agreement documents that come from the school asking for student and parent signatures. My take on them is the same as with the mission statement, the process of discussing, sharing ideas, and writing one’s own family digital wellness plan is much more important than signing a document that someone else created. So look into writing your own plan based upon the family values that you developed in writing your family mission statement. Here is the link to the workshop. You will find links to the handouts on slide 8. Be warned, I am pretty ambitious in what I hoped to cover in the workshop so please understand that the presentation was meant for face-to-face sharing where I could walk the parents through the process step by step.

Family Wellness Plan – There could not be a better time than now to come together as a family to design and create your family wellness plan. The internet is filled with helpful articles, blog posts, and videos guiding us to be active in taking care of our collective well-being. We are so fortunate to have so much science-based information on how to support our mental, physical and spiritual needs. With Positive Psychology we have the PERMAH construct and Character Strengths to provide the structure to set goals, list action steps, and follow them. I put together a simple planning document that your family can adapt and use. Here is a template if you want to do a personal wellness plan.

 

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